Wow, some serious support kicked in last night. Thank you all for chipping in.
On fathers day. I'll let it slide. Yes it was thoughtless of MIL and selfish of WW but S9 is super excited about going so I'm not going to interfere with that. Besides he's said several times how he wishes I was going. Perhaps he'll say this to his mother. May well awaken something in her.
Bob- I get to see S9. He was here with me last night.
Painter- we've been separated since January. She's done soul searching. She seems quite happy without me in her life so as good as all those reasons you stated are its too late for that.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
And another email from her. We were discussing S9's time next week and it's back to the 'other matter'
Here's what she said this time;
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Hi, Can I assume from your last emails that you now don’t want to respond to the email below? That’s fine, it would just be a help to me to understand what you believe to be the alternative to this course of action.
Can you please let me know if you will be responding or if you have decided not to?
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
I will respond, in due course. This isn’t an urgent matter. S9’s welfare is.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
Controlled, measured. Interesting point from counsellor was they aren't hearing what you're saying. You can say 'I love you' and all that, but they need to hear that you empathise with the stuff they come out with.
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
Controlled, measured. Interesting point from counsellor was they aren't hearing what you're saying. You can say 'I love you' and all that, but they need to hear that you empathise with the stuff they come out with.
Now here is a thing with the communications with her RE S9 that relates to what you said. I originally said I want him from Tue to the following Mon with Fri being the exception where he would be with her. She didn't read it like that (go figure) but I think she's forgot that Fri is the anniversary of her D's death. Her family normally gather together on that night. All very strange.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
That was a nice, brief response to her email pushing you for an answer. Well done.
Aren't you going to send her that other email about S9 schedule? That is where you and W need to focus on and get that worked out. I do think it's important to express your desire to spend some time with S9 on Father's Day. Put it out there and then sit back.
That was a nice, brief response to her email pushing you for an answer. Well done.
Aren't you going to send her that other email about S9 schedule? That is where you and W need to focus on and get that worked out. I do think it's important to express your desire to spend some time with S9 on Father's Day. Put it out there and then sit back.
Hi woka. We've sorted out S9's schedule for next week you'll be pleased to hear. I'm going to let Father's Day slide. I had an early one with himast week and he's super excited about the trip so I don't want to stop him from going. Besides, he keeps saying how he wishes I was going.'perhaps he'll say that to his mother.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
