Thoughts on what to say to H in response to the question of why I decided to not go to wedding? My thought...
You have made it clear through your words and actions that you have dismissed me as your wife. You are not even acting as a friend at the moment, so the thought of attending something as special as a wedding with you does not make sense.
Has he asked?
If so, I'd just say that you don't feel it's appropriate to take this trip together at the moment. I wouldn't give a big lecture.
