Yes, it is a necessary part of this to try to understand it. But the truth is, we will never be able to fully for the reasons I said. So, at some point, we have to let go of trying.
I kept trying and trying. Going round and round in my head. And I wished I had listened to the people who told me to let it go sooner.
As Bea said, there is trying to understand it and there is obsessing about it. Eventually we just need to accept what is because there is no way to fully get your mind around it.
I just want Mighty to get to where she needs to be. If thinking about it over and over gets her there, great. But I am here to try to help and based on my experiences, the sooner she lets go of rehashing it in her head, the better for her.
To me, the way to acceptance is in changing your mindset. Most times when we keep thinking about it, it keeps us in that place.
I only want whats best for her. And this is her journey. She can take what she wants and leave the rest. She certainly doesnt have to follow what I say, if she doesnt want to.
I was blessed to have some amazing people walk this with me. I thank God every day for them. I wouldnt have made it through without them. And the most important advice I was given was to try to make peace with not knowing or understanding. Didnt happen right away. It was a process, but it is the necessary steps that need to be taken in order to come out whole.
