Lynn same thing just happened to me. I got a ray of hope and ran full speed ahead. Just regroup and stay as focused as possible, it's so hard.
I pray he does't leave but my DB coach had me make out an emergency plan with her in case my H revealed he has been having an affair. We just went through some options and she really spoke at length about not reacting out of impulse.
Maybe it would help you to plan for the worst case so you will feel stronger if he does up and move out.
My H had an affair several years ago. It's gut wrenching. Hang in there.
