I have a question for the guys whose wife has had an affair ( either EA or PA ). How and why did you forgive ?. I had an affair 8 years ago , we tried to work it out and even though I was not seeing the OM , I did not take what I had done seriously enough. We struggled for 3 or or so years and then he left, met someone else ( which is now over ) . I was devasted and time has really given me a perspective on how damaging and ugly my affair was. We are legally separated but not divorced and rarely talk. Is there anything I can do to make it better with him or is it too late.
