Last - what I maybe could have said in a less snide manner is that you've already been down this road. Why are you going back down this tunnel - you already know there's no cheese there!
This is a long process. I've been here two months - it feels like a lifetime, and yet I understand I may have many more before my W even considers R with me. So use the time. Really use it.
Matt - It always brings me joy to get someone to laugh.
Last - Both MrBond and Matt have great points. I've been DBing almost 8 months and I made many of the same mistakes you are making in the beginning. I know it's not easy. When is the last time you reviewed Sandi's Rules? I know Cadet posted the link when you first joined our forum.
Reread them. I can do it. More importantly, I will find me in this. I have been identifying myself with my family for so long, that I I have lost myself. I did that willingly. Now I have to figure out who I am with the relationship stripped away.
Me: 39 W: 38 T-18yrs M-13yrs 2 Girls: 10 & 3 EA BD 5/24/15 Separate Bedrooms 6/12/15 PA BD 7/3/15 Separate Residence 8/8/15
