Starsky's approach here might not follow DB principles to the letter per say
What is his approach?
More along the lines of blowing up the A, playing hardball ... not paying for the phones, .. funding the A so to speak. In a way I had borrowed from such things .. confronting the WAS with the disrespect the A shows .. forming boundaries sticking to them .. say it once and don't budge type of response till something cracks. Not allowing the WAS to sleep in the MBR, not doing anything for them, laundry, cooking, that type of thing.
I have a hard time disagreeing with it .. in my case not so sure it would have work completely ... but I did take the DB route and did what worked ... though I still have some ground to go
