I did not....could you please post your reworked draft here so we all can see it together?
Ok I'm lost now. Which draft am I posting? The one about S9 and the schedule?
Fathersday gate was this. I'm on quite a big weekend this weekend. WW decided to take S9 away and he will be gone until Monday. so I don't get to see him on fathersday. WW couldn't understand why this P*ssed me off. It's not her responsibility to remember important dates like this. SEriously, this is the woman that never missed a B day, anniversary or even the day we renew our car insurance. Sure, if I missed mothers day it would have been ok with her /sarc
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
Wait a minute, NDY. I went back and I do not see anything about W keeping S9 during Father's Day. Did I miss something about it here??
It's most probably on an old thread. But yea. Basic story is I'm out this weekend from Friday till sunday. MIL decided to take WW and S9 away for the weekend so he's away on fathers day.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
I sure hope and pray you get to see your S9 soon!!
Hang in there.
Bob
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
Send this email to W now....otherwise she'll just make her own plans after not hearing back from you.
W,
Thank you for reaching out. It is very clear that we both love our S9 and we each want some individual time with our son. I'd like to think that we can come up with a workable schedule that meets everyone's needs.
Here are some ideas here and I'd like to hear your thoughts on this as well. How about the following schedule for next week:
Have S9 with me on Father's Day all day this coming Sunday and I can drop him off in the evening.
Tues, Wed, Thurs nights with me and then Friday to Sunday with you. (NDY, you can change this part as I am not in your shoes)
When S9 has his time with you, I'll be sure to have his clothes and other items packed ready for your house. Then when it's my turn, then you'll do the same with his clothes and items.
Wait a minute, NDY. I went back and I do not see anything about W keeping S9 during Father's Day. Did I miss something about it here??
It's most probably on an old thread. But yea. Basic story is I'm out this weekend from Friday till sunday. MIL decided to take WW and S9 away for the weekend so he's away on fathers day.
I wonder if this is a provocation to try to get an emotional/angry/threatening reaction out of you. Maybe it's something your L should tell her L that W should be advised not to do and to change those plans asap. It will look very, very, very bad in court and it's a very stupid move on her part.
M 16 yrs, WH62, P54 3 adult blended kids EA 11/13, BD1 6/14 PA fall 14, BD2 2/15 Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15 Separated 4/16 WH moved OW in 5/16 Divorced 6/15/17
I just got caught up on the latest development. I think your answer to her should just reiterate what you already have said (and these are all my own reasons for saving my own marriage plus everything else I can think of, so pick and choose) and maybe add an idea for moving one step forward:
- You don't want a divorce for a number of reasons: The vows you made. The child you have. The love you had and have for each other and for that child. The financial and practical hardship it would mean for all of you, including your child, which is now becoming so obvious with the involvement of lawyers.
- You realize that she is not feeling the same way right now. You realize she is emotionally involved with someone else. There are difficult choices in the future for everyone.
- However, you feel it is too soon and too much turmoil to make these life-changing choices that will impact your son so drastically, right now. You are certain that is impossible to make a clear-headed choice about a marriage while a third party involved.
- You don't expect her to go back to the M you had, and you don't want that M, either. But you want her to take time by herself to contemplate this life-changing decision, and not leave any stone unturned before deciding whether she thinks it is possible to rebuild a marriage where you both get your needs met.
- Perhaps a solution would be an organized separation where you both refrain from seeing others while you focus on what it would take for you both to be happy as a couple and a family.
M 16 yrs, WH62, P54 3 adult blended kids EA 11/13, BD1 6/14 PA fall 14, BD2 2/15 Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15 Separated 4/16 WH moved OW in 5/16 Divorced 6/15/17
Wait a minute, NDY. I went back and I do not see anything about W keeping S9 during Father's Day. Did I miss something about it here??
It's most probably on an old thread. But yea. Basic story is I'm out this weekend from Friday till sunday. MIL decided to take WW and S9 away for the weekend so he's away on fathers day.
Thats Horse[censored]!
Are you and MIL not cordial? That would make me a little crazy, but you seem to be very cordial about it. Kudos for you.
Me: 32 W: 29 T:8 M: 6 D4 S2 M - 8/2008 W is not happy - 1/2014 W wants D - 9/2014 W moved out - 11/2014 D filed - 1/23/2015 D'ed - 2/25/2015 Gave X the Letter - 11/10/2015
