I think 25years asked earlier maybe a month ago what it is that I want and need to change:
I want to be noncodependent and that is what I am going to be working on for myself right now. This is going to be hard because I have realized that for my part I am codependent in some ways. I think this because I have been so obsessed with H and what he is doing and means etc...
Its not my problem, he will eventually tell me what he means, wants etc... so until then I will work hard at becoming non-codependent. Which the way I understand it is to realize that H or someone else's problems are theirs to fix or work through and I don't need to meddle. Concentrate on myself.
Like today H was complaining about money and I was going to try and cheer him up about the situation but then I thought no it is his thought and concern not mine so I kept my mouth shut and left it for him to ponder. Normally I would tell him oh its not that bad we can do this or that or we should do this or that.
Not anymore unless he specifically asks for my opinion.
