Thanks GB but I recon we place the two issues in two different camps. I like what you said but I know for a fact that if we mix the message she will focus on the wrong one. I've noticed this about her over the last few months. Either I don't get the message across correctly or (more likely) she finds it difficult to see the big picture.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.