I was thinking the Same. The schedule and the other matter are two different things. I won't get much in the way of resistance on S9. One of the things she hated while I was away was the lack of time I spent with him. I didn't have a house for crying out loud. That's part of the reason why I came back. I mean your choices on what to do with a 9 year old on a rainy Thursday in Scotland while you are sleeping in your bro's spare room is very limited.
If you are going to go the schmooze route what about saying something like:
"When you had me leave in January, I felt it was important to not disturb s9 to the greatest extent possible by allowing him to primarily sleep at his own house where he had his own bed and bedroom. I truly think it would serve S9 best if now that you've left, we kind of carry on that tradition of not shuffling around S9 or making him stay somewhere as a sort of guest. Hopefully your affair ends and we can see about getting you back home and reconciling our marriage but, until then, at least until you get a place of your own where S9 can have his own space this is something I hope you consider for S9's sake. In addition, please note that come Sunday you've had S9 for 8 of the last 11 nights, I am arranging my schedule so that I can pick up S9 from MIL's (or wherever) at about ___pm all next work work starting monday night (then dropping him off at ____am in the morning before work) and then next weekend I'm trying to plan an trip out of town to ______ with S9. We can go back to a more 50/50 arrangement of split time thereafter with, preferably, us coming to an agreement that most nights, until, God forbid, you get a place of your own, he sleeps in his own bed at home.
We also need to establish a more permanent schedule so I can get a second job soon. I'm going to need the extra money to pay attorneys and, if necessary, to buy you out of the house at the fair price you offered me last month. To be clear, I'd much rather you ended your affair and came home. Believe it or not, I miss us.
Your loving husband, x"
The internet is 90% complaining and entitlement and I hate it because I deserve better!
