No one but you can decide when enough is enough. I think thats often the misconception that the WAS has all the power in this when its truly on the LBS .... its all us when we want to drop rope and be done, that is different for everyone.
Like Wonka said .. timelines are not beneficial, no one told me just how long this stuff would be ... I am not sure it would have mattered to me to be honest, I hit a point I just let go to be honest. I was not going to file for D, if she wanted that fine, I would sign when I had to but no way was there ever going to be a point when she could tell anyone Cali divorced me ... if she wanted out .. she would have to file and do the paperwork .. that was just hoe I felt.
I have seen others here just tire of the crazy and file for their own sanity ... maybe they needed that to detach and move on .. I never did .. I detached and moved on without it ... hoping maybe one day she would see me for the amazing person I am and the OM for the douchbag he is, but more importantly for her to be alone, and really figure out what she wants out of life. I was one who felt the A was the obstacle ... turns out it was never about the A ... its about the WAS and them working through the stuff that set them into crisis in the first place .. .the tragic part is all the destruction in the aftermath.
