Wonka, not sure about her being scared to return to the M. To her there is no M to return to.
I am going to 'creatively acquire' a great gem that 25yearsmlc has sprinkled fairly frequently in DB posts amd here's one she responded to a poster (25's comments are in blue):
Originally Posted By: 25yearsmlc
Its very confusing and I am on a roller coaster of is he coming home or never coming home.
Please get off the roller coaster. No one is holding a gun to your head telling you to "wait" for your h. When you GAL for real, you will no longer be on his roller coaster.
I think about it constantly.
No offense, but ^^ this shows.
As I've said before, GAL FOR REAL and you will not be constantly thinking about him.
Do you think that obsessing about him and your situation has helped you at all? I don't. I think it's holding you back big time.
Plus, NO WAS returns to a marriage they left,
unless
they believe the marriage can be better/different than before.
How is your behavior showing your h any real change?
When you obsess and fume, you are letting Fear control you and when you operate in fear
you are not operating in faith. And it hurts your cause.
It is very hard to wait and see
THIS^^^ IS the flaw in your approach my friend. It's a common mistake.
No one here is telling you to "wait and see".
If you have read the DB books or gotten much out of this board, it must be that you are NOT to "wait & see".
You have to take charge of your life and your happiness
(and model that for your son) asap. Moving forward is NOT = to giving up.
But as of now, I fear you are still confusing "standing still" ("wait & see")
with standing for your m.
Standing for your marriage is NOT standing still and waiting...
