Yep I agree with Bob. I have learned a lot from reading 25years advice and others.
I was a little upset this morning H said he was taking S to eat dinner with parents and didn't invite me. I felt bad and left out and you know what it is ok to have that feeling but then you need to let it go because I can't change the fact I wasn't invited and so I need to let it go and move on with my day. It is what it is.