Yeah, and physically separating is an important thing for us to do. Just now she came down to give me the rundown on how much her business is picking up - she needs some kind of affirmation from me. She sat down on the ottoman in front of my chair, and she just can't seem to "help" herself... she reached out to touch my knee. I think in a way, like my good friend says, having this much contact with me is a drug for her. I'm this safe place, and as long as she gets just enough of me and whatever anchor I provide, she's good. Need to take that away from her.
We had a talk that veered a bit into how the relationship with the OW isn't really love... she got instantly defensive, and I quickly backed out of the discussion. It's so hard not to try and make them see the light, Fogg. But I know it's futile at best, counterproductive at worst.
Me: 46 Her: 41 M: 5.5 yrs / S: 20, 18 3/26 W and I meet OW BD: 5/2/2015, she takes off ring W goes to stay with OW 6/26 NC: 9/5 Both moved out: 10/16 I take off my ring and feel... healed: 10/19
