That's why as much as I admire GB and welcome what he has to say the direct approach will just blow up in my face. In the early days I did just that type of thing and now look at the state of us.
Something to keep in mind... Early on in the relationship things were good, and that is when the spouse falls in love with the person you are. Perhaps over time you have moved away from that form of problem solving, or perhaps that technique no longer works. It is important for you to understand what happened, so that you can incorporate the proper 180s.
Does that make sense?
It makes complete sense Matt. Thanks for chipping in. At the moment our interactions are limited to electronic communications which makes it slightly more difficult to convey the right message. That's why I was surprised at her response to the last email RE L's. Note though, when I enforced the 'Don't contact the OM in the house' she exploded and the very next day left. So we are clear where she is on that one.
I get GB's point about not being worried about upsetting her. I understand that and I'm not avoiding conflict I'm just trying to find the 'right' combination of language.
Not sure if I'm making myself clear or not.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
