Hey Bob, good to see you here on my thread, and thanks for the hugs.
I tend to clean a lot, so it's nothing unusual. Lighting the candles is new, but I do blow them out before bed. On Sunday, she came home while I was still up in the living room and commented on how "delicious" the house smelled before she gave me a hug and said she was sorry for hurting me, but she "couldn't help it."
I will keep things dark each night unless someone gives me a compelling reason to do things differently.
This morning I woke in one of those panics about what I'm going to do next, where will I be/live, how are we even going to begin to sort through all our "stuff." Last night we had thunderstorms, the kind that would remind me how grateful I was for the warmth and love and safety of this home. But last night, they only filled me with dread.
Me: 46 Her: 41 M: 5.5 yrs / S: 20, 18 3/26 W and I meet OW BD: 5/2/2015, she takes off ring W goes to stay with OW 6/26 NC: 9/5 Both moved out: 10/16 I take off my ring and feel... healed: 10/19