Abuse

[Ggrass]

I watched so many abuse videos that when they made me dissolve into hysterical crying about how my life was no list could tell me otherwise it was undoubtedly abuse.

Sleeping on a gun for 3 months. Having guns just laying within hands reach of my xh2. Him hitting the child as a control move. Those things all add up to be totally controlling and abusvie.

It doesn't matter that you lived it, it's about weather you sign up for another round. If your prepared to accept changing you can hanging the game to live a different Life in the future.

There's a lot of information and resources in this threaUd and I hope sincerely hope those of you who doubt your judgement you use some of these to grow your self into something far stronger and far better.

Gg, what made you wake up to the fact you knew you were being abused?

so it was a mate who hammered me, telling me that covert abuse is abuse. loaded guns in the house, the threat of hitting the child, the guns that were often left under the mattres, the threat of being as good as his word and leaving me over seas. So many things that were no win the having no life. Really those video of other women talking about their abuse when I had denied it so strongly that it could have been me. having to confront other things that meant it really wasn't about my best interest ever that marriage

What was the recognition oil, the videos or reading?
the video of the woman who's hubby hit her contansantly then used guns to threaten, mine thought he didn't use that threat as they weren't ever aimed at me or my head. Reading here night after night helped and so did the sharing of stories to know I couldn't fix it nor did I cause it, but was undoubtly held accountable when xh2 was totally unaccountable for any of his actions

Did hitting your child influence your decision?

yes and no it was the start of the real downward spiral it was where he started throwing a huge tratrum of how the child controlled the m. how s17 had manipulated me and my view of xh2 he even wrote an email telling me why hitting the child wasn't abuse and he would not expect anyone to stay in that sort of abusvie situtsion

After H2 had gone would you have taken him back?

in the early part I decided I would consider it a r sitch up to the one year but as the year rolled on my grief deepened and I grieve it and decided to let it go, hence I want settlement. Now I don't think I could remotely go back, unless xh2 had done a heap of personal work in him, which he hasn't done, rencenty he has lied about stuff that really doesn't matter one way or the other.

Do you think you would identify an abuser again?

Hell I hope so, but who knows! I thought I would never put up with abuse but I never really knew about covert hidden abuse to the same degree.

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