Bright - you will know when you are totally done, and you may still want to continue to visit and post - this is a forum where you have many friends>
Despite all of this I realise I remain fond of my xh - don't like what he has done, am not in love with him, but there is a deep and long standing bond between us which is not dissolved. It may, one day, but I am not pretending it has at this point.
We don't have to stop loving people who have hurt us - it just makes sense to protect ourselves from their current actions.
