So many of your posts hit marks with me. Our sitches are different, but many of the feelings are so alike. The fear, hesitations....We have worked so hard to get to the peaceful place we are....I don't have my H trying to reconnect, but I can only imagine your struggle there. I feel so safe where I am, happy and content. I don't think I would be ready to leave that, so I can imagine that struggle.

Also, I have really become to like myself. I mean REALLY like who I have become. But when I am around H, I feel like the old me, regardless of my new actions, and I can't stand that! Makes me cringe and want to get the heck away from him and anything to do with old me, old M....he is only a reminder of all that, including the pain he brought on....does that make sense or sound familiar? I guess that is part of the process we work through.

Like UR said, makes sense to just stay on your path and take it slow. No decisions needed for now, it will all ride itself out. I am back and forth daily on stand, don't stand. I even have been contemplating filing, which really surprises me sometimes. But for now, I just keep on....

Hope you had fun at brewery! And I am so impressed with your son. What a sweetie, love that he openly talks with you. It really shows how well you have done with him through all of this smile


Me 48 H 46 S 11
M 2004
BD 8/13
H moved out 2/15
-live in the present, enjoy the beauty around and within you, explore your new future-