Focused on Me and My Son 3

[Sherman333]

The kids were super happy. We told FS9 at this therapist. He was all grins. He was even super talkative (definite sign of how happy his is). Even had a 15 long conversation in the grocery store employee about the lobsters... was really funny.

The STBXW found out from S7 that FS9 was at my place. She dropped off S7 early so they could spend time together. Even bought them dinner. That's something the old her would have done. They were in the driveway when I pulled up. They were sitting in the car. She gave S7 kisses. FS9 got out and S7 rushed out of her car and they started chatting. STBXW, stayed in the car, waiting a moment or 2, then drove off.

I got the kids fed. That's when we told S7 that FS9 wasn't going home. That he was staying. They went swimming after dinner until it was time to come in to get ready for bed. I read them a chapter in a book and they were done.

They're back to calling each other brothers. So happy times.

STBXW did ask if she could have FS9 on the evenings/weekends and I told her no. Multitude of reasons for this... he doesn't need to be exposed to her behavior at the moment and she'll mainly use him just to avoid spending any time with S7.

She hardly interacts with S7 (according to him), just texts on her phone and beyond the initial discussion when she picks him up, she doesn't talk to him. She's only taken him to the park once.

She's also been setting him up in a bind... She let's him watch youtube videos on Minecraft. Last time that the OM dropped by her house (he bought her an Apple Watch and had to drop it off), the STBXW started yelling at S7 for watching Youtube. Who knows what he'd clicked onto, but he was still pretty upset about it when he got back to my place. He also complained about his mom kissing the OM on the lips when she got the watch. He didn't like that either. There's not much I can do about any of it but stay positive for him, let him vent, and validate what he's saying. I don't talk bad about his mother. So it's a fine line.

So tonight they're already asking whether S7 can come home tomorrow vs. go to the STBXW's house. I'll text her tomorrow and see what she says.