First post. Desperate for advice.

[MrBond]

"I reached out to those closest to me for support and to ask "please speak to her. Make her see!". I think it may have lifted the fog."

No you didn't. You were (and are) still trying to control her.

"Damn it. Ashley Madison profile is still up. That's a kick in the nuts. Told me she took it down."

See?

I thought you said you were going to start DBing. Doesn't sound like you've changed. Your insecurities are what got you to this point. They're obviously still there.