Pretty sure I've read that same website and it has some truth to it. From what I read there's two main issues with looking at what our WS's do as an affair fog.

The first is it keeps us holding onto the idea that they will "wake up", keeps us in denial about the possibility that they may never come back. Not healthy for us. They do know what they are doing at the time, but they ignore the damage they are doing and the negative qualities of AP. This is part of the fog I think we talk about most. Its more a denial of their part in the moment.

The second main issue is we think they are under a spell and this fog is controlling their actions. So if/when they "wake up" we excuse their actions since they were "in the fog" like nothing happened. We ignore the selfish part of what they have done.

At the end of the day our partners are so focused on getting that good feeling from the AP they are willing to do anything to hold onto it. They see us as the enemy standing in the way for their perfect fairy tale with AP. They are no blinded by what they are doing, they know on some level it is a selfish action but the ends justify the means. I see the "waking up" part as them recognizing the damage they have done when things don't turn out the way they would life. Basically, the ends don't work out, so the means to get there are no longer valid.

Last edited by Fogg; 06/17/15 11:51 PM.
Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be