Hi guys. In parking lot... Just left ic. Great session. Feel good. You guys have such great input and I so appreciate the support. You have no idea.
I have to reread when I get home and not on my phone.
Yes, xh does reach out to kids. He wants a r with them. He has really tried since he found out HWW was pregnant. That was a def wake up call for him. Before that he was thinking he was living it up. Reality check. He didn't want another kid, and I think it made him yearn for his old family. But, he hadn't gone far enough through mlc. I had a feeling it was premature, but hoped we could.... Whatever.
Anyway, he felt tremendous guilt for bringing this child into this sitch, once he saw her. Understandable, but innocent babies... Teens who will have to deal.
The thing is, he has ALWAYS wanted things on his terms. ALWAYS. And I went along with it. He is used to t. And when things don't go his way, he bullies his way. With everything. And he makes choices and expects everyone to deal with it and go along bc he said. That's typical... Pre mlc. And now it is only excerbated. He changed his mind again and assumes everyone will go along. When they have an opinion or feeling, blame....? Well, me! You know, bc I have always appeased him. Now that I don't tell his lies and manipulation a to the kids, it's my fault.
Bottom line.
I don't think saying anything will do any goo, the more I think about it. In fact, right when things were going down, round 2, I called him out. I said to the kids we need to address something, and asked them point blank what I say about their dad (in front of him). They told him I always told funny family stories. We didn't talk about him, really, outside of that, and clarified that I don't talk poorly about him. It was an opportunity we had, all together, for clarification. I was tired of him putting that on the kids. But, now, it's only worse. I know it will do no good.
Ok, gotta my journey home. You guys are saving me.... Again!
Xo. Gonna jam to silver sun pickups! Love " lazy eye"! My jam.
