Starsky, could you please be a dear and post the Robx-Gucci letter here? Thanks much!
It is my understanding that both Robx and Gucci were banned from DB years ago for posting advice contrary to the fundamentals of DB. It is also my understanding they have also both been banned from just about every forum regarding infidelity out there. They are anti-marriage and anti-hope. Anything either of them says on the subject is, in my opinion, destructive (even if it sounds ok at first glance).
As I recall they basically would both tell you to kick your wife to the curb and if she comes crawling back begging then maybe you've got a chance to rehabilitate the little lady. "Let her go" was their battle cry which is completely contrary to MWD, every other credible doctor/counselor on the subject as well as against biblical principles.
Just take that into consideration when reading any form or letter they crafted or propose.
Additonally, if you first email wasn't so watered-down and convoluted she never would have asked for clarification. It's not very attractive to be unable to express yourself clearly and with authority. When you start bogging down communications with "I feel" statements and validations statements you enter the realm of psycho-babble. Just be you. Tell her you are hurt, devastated, don't want a divorce and want to fix your marriage. Tell her she needs to end this silly meaningless affair with this dorky guy who can't get his own single woman so he trolls married women, who also has no business in your family or ever being around your son. She'll go nuts or not. So what. The only positive thing is she asked you a question so you have the opportunity to speak your mind.
Maybe the email they propose is OK. I'll read it but I doubt it will advisable in your situation at all.
The internet is 90% complaining and entitlement and I hate it because I deserve better!
