Mighty ... I only bring that up because I recently noticed my S8 handle a situation exactly as I would have ... during this Hurricane we found ourselves in sometimes we lose sight of the kids, sure we protect them and do what we can to minimize the damage done to them as we in a sense become human shields ....LBS will take the brunt of crazy from the MLCr just to try to keep some sense of normalcy in the household.
That being given, the kids are smart, they too are connected to the family unit, so when there is a disturbance they feel it as we do, they watch us, and the MLCr and see how we handle things ... try as we might ... its hard to play this game of poker with a total straight face ... they pick up on the tells, they see how we handle things and in turn that's where they are learning to deal with their issues.
I am not sure if those emotions ever go away .. I too am dealing with them, they are straight from the core emotional place .. where the deep hurt lives .. its a tough one to 'get over'
As far as the kids getting sucked in .. they see it, they lived it .. they are plenty old enough, I trust they are even more cautious than you are ... he is their father, hopefully he can figure things out and atleast be that for them ... but again ... not your circus not your monkeys ... you can not control any of that ... its all on them.
