She's probably annoyed that she found herself in a situation where she needed your help. I hope she's ok btw.
About the visiting thing. Perhaps a good time to withdraw?
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
She's got 4/5 kidney stones, so the scan says. Nearly all communication has been via SD. I asked in a text if she wanted me and the kids to visit, but she said no as to not worry them. Finished with a kiss.
I replied that I was available if she needed and I would see the kids to school tomorrow.
No doubt when she gets out, I'll still be out in the cold, despite being the caring husband!
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
She's got 4/5 kidney stones, so the scan says. Nearly all communication has been via SD. I asked in a text if she wanted me and the kids to visit, but she said no as to not worry them. Finished with a kiss.
I replied that I was available if she needed and I would see the kids to school tomorrow.
No doubt when she gets out, I'll still be out in the cold, despite being the caring husband!
Mate. Go back and re read cadets homework. I think you are off track here. She fired you as her a H. That comes with consequences. And re read sandi's rules. Your breaking about half of them right now.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
I expect to still be in the bad books, no expectations of any thanks or R.
This was an emergency situation. The only text sent was to ask if she wanted us to visit. Hospital is a lonely place and I didn't want her to miss the kids.
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
Well, I've had these stones and it hurt like hell. Worse than giving birth, if you ask me.
But even thought I think you are sweet to text and ask if she wants a visit, I think now that she said no, you should withdraw and not offer any more help. Not even a drive home. But I think that it will be very hard for you, would be for me too.
She might as well feel what it's like to be on her own and you focus on your kids as she is away.. But as you know, I say I think this is the best, and would probably do the opposite..
Big hug!
M: 44 H: 43 ILYBNILWY: 7/4-15 Decided to try to reconnect. "This doesn't work, I have no feelings": 20/4-15 Scheduled "talk" :9/5-15 It's over: 9/5
W will be out tomorrow as long as she has no fever. W is on some high dose painkillers and has had a injection for a blood clot, so it doesn't sound very good really. Hospital is 10 miles away so I will have to get her. Funny, in all her conversations with SD, she hasn't asked about the kids once. I expect her not to care about me, but the kids?
She hasn't had any visitors in hospital and I won't be going until it's time for pick up. That sounds so heartless, but she is treating me like sh1t. Back in my own bed tonight...yipee!
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
Funny, in all her conversations with SD, she hasn't asked about the kids once. I expect her not to care about me, but the kids?
She cares.
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She hasn't had any visitors in hospital and I won't be going until it's time for pick up. That sounds so heartless, but she is treating me like sh1t. Back in my own bed tonight...yipee!
Good stuff. When I finally went back to my own bed I slept like a baby.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
Ditto NDY - back to Cadets homework. All this is just reason to resent you more. What's with the kisses - bl***** h**l. In the 1st instance I would love it if W did it, but this has gotta be setting you back every time. Just like nicotine patches - you're supposed to be quitting but just to keep you addicted to nicotine - have a little bit through your skin.
M: 6 T: 12 Kids: 2,4 BD: Jan 2015 S: Feb 2015 EA/PA confirmed: Feb2015/Mar2015
Sorry, a misunderstanding. W's message finished with a kiss.
W called this morning and tells me she's a lot better. We had about five minutes of conversation. She sounded like old W. At the end of the conversation W said 'bye love' and then paused. I said 'see you later'. Normally we would have had a 'love you' in there. I don't know if she wanted that, so I didn't.
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
. Seriously you could save her life and she would STILL resent you. Praying for you.