Still conditioned by guilt I guess. It's just that we shared everything for so long. When I would drop of the kids to school I would usually text "Drop off OK" or "Drop off not so good for D6". When I would leave for home I would text "Heading home in 10 mins" etc.... She would do the same but it was more me, the people pleaser.
So, I am having to learn to stop with those thought processes, learned behaviors. Hard Hard Hard for me.
I get it. I go back and read my old posts and they talk about needing strength to go NC for a day. Or a week. It's been almost 2 months now! A day feels like nothing at this point. Just leave her alone - it's not like she isn't letting you know when she's upset about something/anything.
