Sweden beyond rescue it seems.

[NDY]

Tulo, you are very early on in the process. I, just like you obsessed over my WW in the beginning after BD. and it doesn't go away over night. It takes a long time. I cannot admit that I still don't get upset and angry about what's happened. I still sometimes blame her for everything. It's natural. But it does get better and we can speed up our healing by following the advice given here.

Most say GAL and DETACH. These are good but often difficult to get a grip of. I know I still struggle with it but it gets a bit easier every time you try. One thing I will add to that. Try not to rake over the ashes of a dead R. I don't personally find that productive. Introspection? Yes, without a doubt but let go of the 'what if's'.