You're right, Heavy. I want to see the A crash and burn quickly. I wish she'd move in with the OW right away, in fact. But, that's not her plan. Wouldn't "look" appropriate. Others' perceptions matter to her (right Toots, no one wants to be the villain), and it's killing her that some people do already know the truth.
As far as GAL, that's a day by day thing. I do have a good network of friends, and my family is only an hour's drive away when I need to get away. I go out more nights than I don't these days, and try, when I can, to be home later than her. But that's getting harder the later she stays at the OW's house. And plus, it's getting exhausting. I really like just relaxing at home most evenings. We both did. It almost seems disingenuous to keep going out just to "fake" having a life. Still, when I'm out, it helps me not think about what she's up to.
I told my son today that it feels like my W is dead... not just the marriage, but her. Like a demon has possessed her body, and this woman is someone else altogether. It's really painful, but I don't need to tell you guys this.
Me: 46 Her: 41 M: 5.5 yrs / S: 20, 18 3/26 W and I meet OW BD: 5/2/2015, she takes off ring W goes to stay with OW 6/26 NC: 9/5 Both moved out: 10/16 I take off my ring and feel... healed: 10/19
