You know there is no reason to continue to feel bad IMHO.
You made a mistake. You are no different than most of us tbh.
Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and get back to living your life and believing in DB and not your current relationship. Can it be better again, YES, will it take a lot of WORK, YES.
Is this the right time to work on your relationship - NO. Work on yourself and when the right time to work on your relationship comes you will know it and then be able to work on it.
DETACH, LET GO, and drop the rope.
Hi dear Cadet,
Thank you so much for your reply, I really value your thoughts and I guess your all are right when saying I need to pick myself up and stop feeling bad about this.. As I'm writing this I've decided that when I wake up tomorrow I will start the day with PMA and by God I'm going to work like crazy to keep it all through the day! Think I need to focus on one day at the time, and just plough along..
If there is a good thing with this mess, it is that I truly feel in my heart that this is (just as you say) NOT the time to work on anything with him. Before I still had hope to change this before to long. That hope is now gone, and the hurt has more to do with me trying to figure out how he feels after our all out WAR! And that is trying to be in his mind, which I know I'm not supposed to be when DB and GAL'ing.
I have a spa session planned for tomorrow and a date with my therapist and I know I'll feel better after that. On Friday is Midsummer here and I'm off to the west coast for a fab celebration with friends so I'm hoping that will push my detaching in the right direction.
Mentally the rope is dropped. I'm going to get my heart to follow my mind a.s.a.p. Thank you so much for helping me on the way! It truly make me feel a bit better about myself..
Big hug to you Cadet!
M: 44 H: 43 ILYBNILWY: 7/4-15 Decided to try to reconnect. "This doesn't work, I have no feelings": 20/4-15 Scheduled "talk" :9/5-15 It's over: 9/5