Ok DBers. Looking for more feedback. She's replied and she says this in her email
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Can I ask you a question though? What so you think is the alternative to separation and/or divorce? This is not meant to be a confrontational question. I am interested in understanding what you think is a workable alternative so I have a better understanding of your thoughts on this. I am hoping you will get back to me to give me more insight because it is this particular area that I feel I don’t understand your stance or the future that you envisage.
Of course I haven't replied
She may be wondering if you are suggesting some 3 party relationship, where you don't divorce, you don't separate, OM moves in and the three of you live together raising S9. I don't see the actual email you actually sent but this seems to be what she suspects you might mean.
She may be up for that. It's a creep solution but it gives her the best of both worlds and let's her keep the house. S9 gets mom and dad and it's a win-win.
OR, most likely
She wants you to clarify and then use the suggestion as a way to bash you as some creepy swinger who wants to have a three way relationship and as further evidence that you are far worse than her (an adulterer). OM is an honorable guy that cherishes her and would never share her or suggest such an outrageous plan.
The internet is 90% complaining and entitlement and I hate it because I deserve better!
