Thank you for the heads up and I appreciate it. I have given this some serious thought and want to discuss my perspective on this matter.
As said previously, I do not want a D nor agree that this is in the best interests of S9. There is ample evidence and data shows that a divorce has long lasting impact on the children which will be a huge disruption on S9's life. For this very reason, I am incredibly sad that you have chosen to continue on this path.
I am sorry that you feel that working with a meditator isn't working for you. It is my preference that we use meditation to resolve issues in an amicable fashion and I see this as the best course of action.
I'm sure you would agree, S9's wellbeing is paramount and I will collaborate with you in a cordial fashion when it come to school-related and childcare logistics. Lawyers details are as follows:
Feels too formal to me though. She'll smell a rat a mile off.
She's confused on your stance not because she thinks you are talking about reconciliation but because your email basically told her you want to collaborate on an amicable divorce.
This email was terrible and now she's hoping you expand upon the "amicable legal resolution" you'd be willing to consider.
Any niceness you perceive is her hoping to pounce on an opportunity to exploit you, get the divorce done quickly and quietly and be with OM.
Your response should be probably be consistent with "I don't talk divorce. I want to reconcile. Reconciliation is what's absolutely best for our S9."
IF you actually do want to amicable settle and steal the house maybe you DO talk about buying her out of the house at the price she suggested previously.
1. See how she likes having the tables turned 2. Maybe she's desperate enough to amicably resolve that she'll give you the house at that price.
But negotiating the divorce goes against divorce busting where you want to drag out the divorce, detach, be nice, GAL and await the end of the affair.
The internet is 90% complaining and entitlement and I hate it because I deserve better!
