She's probably annoyed that she found herself in a situation where she needed your help. I hope she's ok btw.

About the visiting thing. Perhaps a good time to withdraw?

Me:43 Her:42
M:14
S:9
EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts)
PA started 2014/05/30
BD:2014/11/05
I left 2015/10/01
I returned 2015/05/02
She left 2015/06/10
OM still on the go.