Hi Diff, the important thing with DB is you get to decide. There is always hope as long as you choose to continue to stand for the R. Hope for the R may come to an end once you decide to move on. I say may, because folks do sometimes R after that point.
I don't think your partner's 'rebranding' of the situation is a cause to lose hope. No-one wants to be a villain in their own life story, so many people seek ways to justify having an A.
As Heavy said, this journey isn't for the faint hearted, and it most likely won't be a short journey either. This is why it is best to switch your focus firmly on to you and how you are going to live your life going forwards. Do you have some nice GAL plans underway??
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus