What T2 said!! She said it all. This is the way I treat my H on some days, like a houseguest a freind who's staying with me.
I make his lunches for him, I do his laundry, I take care of him right now, as I would a guest who is staying with me. Yes he could do this all himself, but I really want to do things for him with zero expectations. It doesn't matter if he says thank you or not..so I have to be really sure I'm doing it for myself otherwise, resentment sets in.
