It's great news that your H is coming to stay there with you. NOW DON'T BLOW IT !!!!!
While he's there continue to be a 'friend'....and remember!!!!
FRIENDS DON'T:
Act needy
Act sexually aggressive
Make their friends feel guilty, put upon OR uncomfortable
FRIENDS DO:
Act pleasant, upbeat and respectful
Give each other 'space'
Don't intrude upon each other's emotional state
While he's there just do whatever it is you'd do if he wasn't. Don't be a vamp...don't drag him into a relationship temperature taking talk....
THIS visit may be a test for him to see if you've really gotten your poop together or not and if you revert back to clingy...neeedy....he will use that to convince himself that as usual you're all talk and no action....
SO DON'T BLOW IT..Let him initiate any R talk, intimacy advances etc....you stay FRIENDLY and respectful of where HE might be at emotionally and put ALL YOUR wants/needs aside for NOW.
Think of his visit this way: Pretend your H is the Governor of Alaska and he's stopping in to visit with a local constituent. How would you treat the Governor if he came to spend two days at your house?
Would you offer to let him pick where he'd like to put his things (your room, the guest room, the living room?)
Would you tell him that you have Bible study from 7-9pm and so he's welcome to make himself at home while you attend your study?
Would you offer to make bacon and eggs Sunday morning?
Would you ask if he'd like to accompany you to the store, church or grannies house?
Think of your H as an 'honored guest' so to speak and act accordingly....certainly you wouldn't smother the Governor with an endless talk about your fears, pain, needs, wants....so don't do it to your H
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