Just an update. H asked me out on a movie date. I was so surprised and excited and said yes. It has been MONTHS since we have gone out just the 2 of us, not with the kids. But of course I didn't show the excitement. There are still tough days. I still have questions in my mind. He has been less defensive now. The other night I heard him call me his nick name for me. I was so surprised! I am still continuing DB-ing and 180.