Hi Mozza, I'm sorry you're finding things tough just now. I may be where you are some time soon, and I'm not looking forward to it either. I'm in a similar position to you in that there are assets in my H's name that I'm unsure about. But we are just starting the process of financial disclosure, so we'll see what gets declared. I have done my form and given my L all my information.

I would try and focus on this as 'business' as much as you can. The main aim is to achieve a reasonable division going forward in everyone's best interests. If you believe there are undeclared assets, just let your L know and they can ask the question on your behalf. I'm not looking forward to going through the process. But I am looking forward to getting to the other side and having access to funds that are tied up just now.

Try and focus on looking after yourself during this. Meditate if it helps, eat well, enjoy your kids and so on. It's not easy, but you will get through it...

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus