Hi RD, interesting to read the last few posts on your thread. I guess we all look back now and see things we could have done differently. But as others have said - history is history - and the main thing is what we are doing now, and how we are moving forward towards happy lives in the future.

I think with M & S, it can be hard to maintain enthusiasm and a freshness to ML. I know for us it became rather 'routine' and this contributed towards where we are now. It's certainly something I would nurture more carefully going forwards.

I agree with what others say about your W. I don't think her lifestyle or degree of unhappiness are sustainable in the longer term. I suspect things will shift at some point. How they will shift is unknown. But the important thing is that you are happy in your own life, whichever direction things head in...

Take care RD xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus