"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
I'm not sure who she's been hanging out with 100% I know there is a recently D. Friend (female) that she has been hanging around, they also work together. She has her own cell and plan in her name so phone records are not an option.
I suspect she's seeing someone. Just be sure to protect yourself. Start going out and living your life. Don't answer her calls right away and don't contact her.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
Hi Mike - I'm in Michigan too. Must be something in the water here, huh?
Looks like it....
Mike,
Sorry you have to be here, hope you can find the support you need to get through this. I heard things such as ILYBNILWY, I want to be selfish for once, I want to do something for myself for once, I'm just not happy.
Many of the things we hear often indicate the same thing, OM. Its also possible her new friend has shown her the potential for the grass being greener on the other side. If the friend is just now finalizing her D she is likely still not seeing the negative effects it can cause, so everything she says might seen great to W.
My W's new friends popped up after BD and she began buying new clothes, chasing OM,and wanting to hang out with friends and be the single party girl. Regardless of what it is, its about her not you. Shes searching for some void to fill in herself and likely doing all the wrong things to find it. This experience can be life changing for you, it all depends if you let it change you in a positive way. Do the work and you will come out OK no matter what.
Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be
I'm slowly getting to the point where I don't really care what she does and whatever answer she gives for why is just going to be BS. If it's someone else I don't care and hinting that there might be isn't helping me cope with this.
The only thing that matters now is my S.
I am not sure she even wants to be involved with him anymore...which honestly hurts me more than what she is doing to me.
I just don't know how it's going to work with him seeing her a few times a week...he currently doesn't ask where she is and if she starts coming around 'randomly' won't that confuse him even more? I want to protect him from this MLC (or whatever it is) and emotionally unstable time in his mothers' life. I mean what happens if he has an overnight and she wants to have people over? I vision my son in a corner of some random place watching his mom drink and party with friends. Those are the thoughts that keep me up at night...
The W and I have time set aside later this week to discuss 'next steps' I just hope I can keep it together during that meeting.
I am not sure she even wants to be involved with him anymore...which honestly hurts me more than what she is doing to me.
Actions always speak louder than words. I know when my STBXW first moved out, she was so focused on other things that she forgot to get our son one day at school.
I'm not sure where your situation is at, but I just follow-up now just in case.
You also need to talk with a lawyer to determine your rights. I really like the one I have. We setup a plan and so far most of it is happening according to plan... my goal is to protect my son as much as possible. I even got my son into a therapist before I filed so that I could continue to take him and she couldn't stop me.
I'd highly recommend getting your son into see someone... even though he's not articulating it, it's still bothers him.
Me: 45 W43 S7, Foster S9 (Planning to adopt post divorce) D mentioned Feb 2015, Wife served 3/24/2015. She moved out 4/15/2015.
Yes, just after BD I think most of us had problems like that. Along with not eating, not being able to concentrate on anything else during the day, etc. Just try to take care of yourself in every way you possible right now. You can talk to a doctor to get something to help with sleeping, if you think it will help. The headspace mediation app could also help before bed, it can help clear your mind. Exercise will also do wonders for both sleep and depression.
It [censored] Mike, we have all experienced it. It does get better. Try to keep going and focus on yourself, GAL, read those articles Cadet posted, just focus on yourself and S.
Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be
