I don't recall a specific link on transparency. The point of transparency is for you to be able to access your W's cell phone activity, email accounts, etc.., without you giving any notice or warning. If she is sincere about ending the A, she will have no problem in her H accessing anything. If she is sincere, she will want to prove herself. But, if she starts with the privacy cr@p, then she's lying about OM and her wanting to work on the M. There should not be a need for privacy from the spouse, and whenever a person gets riled b/c their privacy has been invaded, you can bet they have something to hide.
If she is serious, she will agree to being transparent. If she starts in about how that is you controlling her, then her heart is not right. Transparency is to help her, as well as it is to give accountability. It is pretty useless for her to pick and chose what you can see, or for her to tell you where she's going, etc. She doesn't get to decide. She doesn't get alerted. Only you decide when you will look.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
