Thanks for being open, RD. I asked this because I often try to relate to a WAW, and often find that I can. After D17 was born, I had a really hard time for a while. Sex was not as comfortable, and I think I had mild PPD. It's only looking back that I wish I had the presence of mind to go to my dr and help myself, but I just couldn't at the time. H did not recognize that I needed help, either, the fact that I wanted sex less frequently and/or was less enthusiastic was seen as a character flaw, and in fact he started a string of inappropriate emails with my best friend. Eventually my physical and mental symptoms eased and I "got back to normal" but I know there was some permanent damage done emotionally. I share this only because, RD, I wonder what would have happened had you reacted differently to your W in the first place, if you had been a partner in helping her figure the whole thing out, if she had felt like it was a couple problem and not a W problem. If she thought you had her back. I know it's what I needed, but I got something else entirely.
And although it's too late to find that out, it may not be too late to address it at some point in the future. Sometimes I feel like your W is going to come crawling back someday, she doesn't seem to be able to move on without you. But when that will be and if it will be way too late, only time will tell. And maybe the lesson is not for W anyway, maybe that lesson is for you and a future partner, you never know what life will bring you. Take my ramblings with the love and good intent they were meant.
