I think sometimes reading posts like yours warp me back .. so much like where I was and where my W was.
The A thing, she may tell you as mine did ... EVERY single flipping time it was over with OP, but never tell you they get back together .. for your sake I hope she doesn't ... but seems they have to have someone and we are all to available .. well I was. I went through ... lost count .. at-least 5 major breakups of W and OM over the 15 or so months I knew there was an OP.
Was not till I was detached ... this past Feb when she told me it was over ... I joked and said something to the effect of "Well I am sure the next few weeks without him will be hard." to myself as that was the typical cycle .. I merely gave her a shoulder shrug and took my S and left. She TM me telling me that she was alone, for the first time since she could remember on a Valentines day ... my reply .. "Its my second year, it gets better" (I recall flipping the phone off as I hit send...lol)
You have to let them do their thing, as you grow, and become the person you are meant to be.
As far as the looks ... yup ... W did all sorts of things .. thankfully never cut her hair but the outfits were pretty revealing, makeup (which she never needed much of) was caked on, all that concern about appearance and not wanting to look more than 23 ... its really tragic to watch.
