The last three weeks or so have been great. We were consciously living "as if". We were getting along, we weren't wasting our time in nonproductive R talks, things were warmer between us. we were working together on decluttering the house. I would have said that we were solidly in piecing.
Then I initiated sex with her.
And today she had her first meltdown in weeks.
I should have known better. I had decided a while back not to initiate with her for a while because It seemed to trigger something in her. I didn't have to twist her arm at the time. She seemed to be into it. But about 48 hours later (I can almost set my watch by it) she crashes.
If she could boil down our root issue, it's sex. She says she loves me. She wants us to work, become a solid couple again, but she feels sexually dead towards me, has for years, and is terrified that she can't get it back.
She thinks everyone else has their marriages together...that they're all financially better off, that they're all connected, while we wasted our relationship drifting apart and not building anything. Everyone else has it going on except us (D*** Facebook!)
What am I doing wrong? Should I be doing anything else to foster that attraction? Is there a point to me even trying?
Ex Rzrback Me 43 Her 44 D11, D15 T21, M19 BD 9/9/2014 Piecing
Sometimes if you want to see a change for the better, you have to take things into your own hands - Clint Eastwood
