I am going to ask that you forget about the draft for a minute here.
Why don't you write a long post here venting all of your rage, pain, anger, and sadness here. Get it all out here. That will be authentic coming from the core NDY. Get it AlLL out of your system, buddy. Don't censor yourself. Just do it right here.
"Venting" is psychological proven to be counter-productive. She wants you to post it here to get it out of your systems so you can supposedly calm down, however, the exercise in doing so is basically deliberately cutting a hole in your remaining love bucket and wasting it on something completely unproductive.
I think your wife should have the "best interests of S9" dead dog comment handed back to her ~~~"here's your dead dog" (i.e. - this is the second time you've mentioned S9's best interests and I find it utterly offensive for you to throw that in my face as though you have any concern whatsoever about S9's "best interests". If you cared at all about S9 you'd end your affair and work on our marriage. Bottom line, divorcing me is 1,000,000 times worse than me not cooperating or participating (aka rolling over) the way you want me to as you destroy S9's family. Other than that, I'll get back to you about my attorney. - ps - "I think I'll paint the living room khaki, any objections?"
Use your best judgement on things like this and become confident and detached versus draining your love bank by rehashing every communication with hours and hours of contemplation and redrafts. The email won't change her mind. Her mind will only change when the affair is dead and over. That's why messing with the affair I find to be more productive and better occupation of the betrayed husband's strategizing mind.
How long do divorces take in the UK? I heard the justice system is completely backlogged over there after large cutbacks. This could take years, years that the OM could get bored and go for another woman less complicated. Notice that every situation that ever turns around on these boards do so once the affair is over. Nothing really "works" until then. So just get it done and move on with your life (gal'ing).
The internet is 90% complaining and entitlement and I hate it because I deserve better!
