I love your transformation to a peaceful, joyful person. It's so awesome, and it makes me really happy for you. I personally believe that this path doesn't have to be in vain, and we can find some really great things if we do the work through the pain.
That being said, I applaud your conclusion about your H. I believe it's true. How? I truly doubt that any of us here walked down the aisle with someone who did not intend to go the distance with us. I really do. Unfortunately, we all carry baggage that sometimes, left untreated or ignored, causes pain to the point we revert to the fight/flight response. Sometimes both.
My aunt (who is 5.5 years older than I am) has been married since she turned 18. She tells me that they are still married because neither one of them wanted a divorce at the same time. That makes me laugh. But the reality of their situation is that they lost their middle son to an unknown heart defect at the age of 20 (he was playing 2nd base and collapsed). It brought all of them closer and I love them both for how they dealt (and deal) with their grief. In the beginning, it looked like it might blow their whole family up, but they persevered.
Anyway, I think you're an awesome person. Too bad Denver and Miami aren't closer.
Hugs, Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
