Heavy ... this is what I was aiming at. Regardless of what you did ... its how we make our spouse feel, its real to her and its an issue for her. This could be a spot you can 180 and validate should the issue come up again.
Over this mess we have to listen and sift through all the angry mud filled comments for the gold nuggets, the things that really bother them. Some of these things have merit, its really easy for us to adopt that "They left me, They Cheated, They Wronged ME ... but if you have really understood this process part of that is figuring out our part in all this ... taking this time to work on those things will only benefit us in the long run and hopefully ... they see these changes and it starts to slowly turn things around.
