hold on! - 10

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Thanks V - you are the best!

----Question, because I probably am not thinking of everything that can go wrong: Why would W have taken the title to one of the cars (both names on it) and our marriage certificate with her, what can she do with this information. I have a feeling she may be on the move or knows that I am, but I don't know what she is doing with these things - any ideas?

I have a meeting with the lawyer today. feeling uneasy about this, but it is only informational right now.

I did have lunch with S21 yesterday, just him and I. I haven't spoken to him one on one since about september/october. I found out about his plans with finishing school and proceeding to military. He is very attached to his GF but says he is not letting that direct his life - I don't see that, but.

I also filled him in on what is happening at home. Mostly the what and not so much about the why. Though I did correct some of the assumptions he had. I think it was eye opening for him. He appreciated me being honest with him. He does not want to be blind-sided by this and I agree with this too. (I found out without guiding his conversation, that he does not want to have any interaction with his mother - he described many things throughout his life that may be considered gas-lighting from his mother (I found that really interesting and heartbreaking)). I feel that I still have my connection with my kids and will not lose that. I told him that I will not make them pick sides and I will not bad mouth their mother - he kind of rolled his eyes and said that there is really no decission to make and I should never be worried about losing S21 and S17. We talked about D15 and he sees that she is being pulled by W with money/shopping/gifts. I let him talk about these things and even without him being around, he really sees how things are.

I went with S17 to open a checking account for him yesterday too. He wanted me to do this with him because he doesn't want his mother's name on the account so she cannot have access to it. He does not trust her with his money. This is all enlightening. The boys trust me as their rock - wow.