Originally Posted By: job
I admire the way that you've handled your situation


This REALLY means a lot to me, especially coming from you, job! Thank you so much for this, and all your support along the way.

Things keep getting better over here. The comfort between us continues to grow. Each of us showing love through actions.

Originally Posted By: Michele, from SSM
7. Accept a gift of love
Sometimes, as things improve and your spouse is trying to be more caring about your needs, s/he might decide to become intimate with you even though sex might not be a burning desire. Rather than feeling insulted or put off, you should accept this as a gift of love. In good relationships, people do things for their spouses all the time that may not be exactly what they feel like doing at the moment. That's okay. In fact, that's more than okay. That's great. That's real giving. Real giving is when you give to your partner what your partner wants and needs whether or not you understand it, like it , or agree with it. Allow your spouse to show his/her love by being sexual even if it wasn't his/her favorite thing to do at the moment. Accept the gift and appreciate it. Good marriages are build on this kind of caring.


The more my wife reaches out to me, the more I want to do for her. It now seems like a snowball rolling down a hill, building on itself. I’m so glad I was a dreamer (did you see the songs in all my threads? laugh ) and never lost hope.

I truly believe we’ve got this.

M: A really long time.
Crisis: 5 years.
She's still worth it.

Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl